Blame is a common energy found on many levels around us. Politically, religiously, spiritually, personally, divisiveness puts us in a constant spin cycle, and keeps us from looking within.
We blame others, focused on the pains they caused us. We blame ourselves, remaining in guilt and shame from prior mistakes. Even in ceremony, when we have difficult experiences, we can blame the medicine. We blame the music, the ceremony, the people.
Some blame is warranted. It can feel righteous or dignified. Sometimes we are treated unjustly, or abused. All we want to do is sit with the anger. Having a process of rage and grief is OK- it’s necessary, actually. We cannot bypass what we feel. Scream it out until there’s nothing left. If you want to call it out, do so! Go through it. Eventually, we have to decide to close the chapter, and begin writing the next. It’s up to us to decide when that moment is, lest we stay stuck in the past.
Blame shifts focus away from the internal world, into external distraction, away from the heart of our work. Blame keeps us in an emotional holding pattern, where don’t truly move on, wishing things could be different, instead of embracing what is. Self blame prevents us from loving ourselves, too.
If every single one of us took a little more personal responsibility every day, the world would look a lot differently. We cannot change other people; we cannot change the past. The only thing we have control over is our own work and reactions.
If living in the Blame Cycle is serving your own journey, by all means stay there. But I’ve often seen this loop keep people obsessed with things they cannot control, and extremely angry with the entire world around them. It is a fire that eats us alive, and serves no one.
I’m not saying forgive and forget. I’m simply suggesting that we not live blinded by blame, immobilized by a wildfire of emotion. We must find a way forward and be the change we wish to see. It’s all we can do.
If the energy of destruction outweighs the energy of creation, then we have missed something dearly important.
Thanks for reading. 
